Physical Intimacy

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Physical intimacy is a very important part of a marriage relationship. Even though it is important I feel like it can be a hard subject to discuss especially in the LDS community. Sean Brotherson in his article “Fulfilling the Sexual Stewardship in Marriage” says it perfect he states; “As Latter-day Saints, most of the dialogue that we hear about sexual matters consists of two primary categories: 1) The incessant chatter and noise of the world, Satan, and related sources that constantly hype and sensationalize sexual intimacy with distorted images of sensuality and misplaced or twisted values and expressions of sexuality. 2) The powerful and compelling warnings of prophetic leaders and caring Church members who seek to steer us away from pornography, sexual exploitation, and immortality in sexual matters.” He continues, and this is my favorite part; “but there is a third part of the dialogue, seldom heard or discussed, and yet it comprises perhaps the most important and powerful portion of our understanding about sexual intimacy. It is the dialogue about the sanctity, power and emotional depth of proper sexual intimacy in the companionship of a married husband and wife. Too often we listen only to the first two strands of the dialogue, and if we listen long enough, we may come to believe that the only kind of discussion about sexuality that is warranted is the dialogue about what Satan tempts us to do and what the Church teaches us not to do. Such a dialogue, however important, is not a recipe for fully understanding and creating sexual fulfillment as a married couple. Ignorance is the first enemy of sexual fulfillment in marriage.”

 I feel like when I got married I knew the basics of physical intimacy but defiantly didn’t know all that it entails in a marriage relationship. It has been a learning and growing process that only could have been done with my spouse. I feel like we need to make a change in our dialogue when talking to our children about intimacy. It is something that is very sacred and special that you should only do when married but at the same time we need our children to feel comfortable enough to ask questions if they have them. It is okay to talk about it and teach about it. I don’t want my own children to be ignorant when it comes to physical intimacy in marriage.

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